We decided to postpone our visit with J. Those of you who know us well know that we take very seriously the care of children and realize that children with special needs can require a lot of extra care. Right now we are still learning what extra care O will need. While our hearts desperately want J in our lives, we realize that we aren't doing either O or J any good if we have to cut too many corners to parent them both. As such, we decided to postpone our consideration of J for a while.